Courage. What is it? For me… It’s one of the most powerful virtues we can build and acquire. It’s the difference between hoping and achieving. It’s the difference between wanting something to be and making it happen. Courage is required to reach your dreams and fulfill your deepest desires. Courage is what we call on to keep going when everything in front of us says to quit and fear insists that our journey is impossible. As a business woman, it’s the one garment that we all must adorn each and everyday to get us to the next level and heck… just to get us to the next minute in some instances.
I have found that in my life as an entrepreneur for most of the last 20 years as a successful Real Estate/MLM Trainer, and Vision Strategist, it is usually the lack of courage that keeps us from reaching our personal destiny. So many let fear cheat them out of living the life they have always dreamed of. If someone asked me what the single most important trait was for any progressive, successful business professional, hands down I would say the courage to smack down fear.
I remember during 2008 -2009 when the sky was falling in our economy and specifically in the real estate industry. Things were dismal. We all witnessed our associates, friends, and industry colleagues losing everything they had worked so hard for. In the mortgage industry on top of losing their businesses, some folks even went to jail and had to spend years away from their families because things had gone so wrong. It was crazy. It was scary. It was devastating. So many people left the industry and went to 9-5 jobs because they just couldn’t imagine ever going through all of that again. But then slowly but surely about 3 years ago… things started to creep back again. Real estate offices started to re-open. Mortgage lenders started to loosen up on qualifications again, just a little and we could all begin see our way back to rebuilding. But again, it was hard. It required great courage and acknowledgement of lots of lessons learned. We all became better and stronger. When I look back at it all, I realize that there were 5 core things that helped me find my way back and will always guide me through any adversity in a courageous manner.
1. Be Grateful
Remembering to remain grateful for everything, no matter what you are and what you may or may not have is imperative. Gratefulness is the gateway to blessings and acceptance. It is necessary to find something to be grateful for especially in the face of difficult times to inspire you to keep going. When you are going through a rough time in business or personally, take the time every single day to write down what and who you are grateful for. It will lift your spirits, it will give you peace, and invite more things into your life to be grateful for.
2. Forgive Yourself
You know typically when we speak about forgiveness, it’s in regard to someone else. We are working on forgiving what we perceive someone else has done to us. And while that is important, it’s really secondary to forgiving yourself. Yes, as we move through life, we have a tendency to beat up on ourselves for mistakes made, opportunities missed, and goals not achieved. Well… Cut it out! In order for you to move in a courageous and powerful way, you have to leave the past in the past and give
yourself a break. Speak favorable to yourself and about yourself to others. I mean really if you aren’t going to forgive yourself and allow for bigger and better things to come, why should anyone else?
3. Give Yourself Permission to Want More
So many times in addition to not forgiving ourselves, we convince ourselves that we should just be happy where we are or with what we have. That’s nonsense!!! You deserve the best of whatever. Love, Career, Money, Health, Fun! Never settle and never believe from yourself or anyone else that you are supposed to. If there is better, if there is more, and you desire it, go for it with all you’ve got!
4. Design a Plan of Action
What’s that we’ve all heard for years? “If you fail to plan, you plan to fail”. That saying is absolutely true. Without a plan, you are just wishing. Designing and writing down your plan to get to your goals is imperative. A plan doesn’t necessarily guarantee that you will reach your goals, but it does give you a place to work from. Life happens and with a written plan, even when you get off track… you always know where you left off and have a clear direction for you next step when you are ready to continue your journey.
5. Commit to the Process
Never give up!! One of the biggest downfalls of us all is stopping before we get to the glory. As a matter of fact we usually stop right before we are about to reach our goal. typically we do this because we as humans have a predetermined time for when something should take place or happen. Though your plan may have deadlines and completion dates, don’t decide it’s over just because you said July 18th and it came and went. Keep pushing. It’s fine to adjust, course correct, or even rest for a minute, but you must not ever give up.
I share these things with my real estate investing and small business clients all the time and I live by them myself. They require daily reinforcement to build and maintain the courage necessary for lasting success. It’s not much different than the concept of bathing or eating food. Just because you did it yesterday… doesn’t mean you don’t have to do it tomorrow. Courage is about what you do everyday to live into your own specific purpose. It’s about standing for your own happiness and peace. Ask yourself everyday if you are being courageous in how you live. If the answer is no, don’t trip. Just go back to my Fab Five List for building courage, review your plan, then repeat as needed!