Where is that damn life instruction manual? You know the one that tells you EXACTLY what to do in your EXACT situation and gives you the most pleasure. I am sure it is pretty thick with a lot of shalls and shants and a lot of stuff I shouldn’t have done lol.
No one promised us an easy life. I can imagine when I was born and my parents seen me and said, how great it is to have her! But not telling my little newborn ass of the days when things were not so shiny. I am sure that many can relate and if you can’t, rest assured, you will. And that can be a good thing because often times your best character is developed in challenging times. So here are 4 simple life lessons that you can use.
1. Nothing lasts forever. Change is the only thing that’s constant. You had best believe that change will come over to wash out the old and usher in the new. So those feelings that come with heartbreak, humiliation, anger, shame or guilt will one day subside. The downside to this is that good things come to an end as well. But when something good has ended always expect something better to take it’s place.
2. You are your own best friend. No one is going to always hold your hand. Your right hand chic is probably gossiping about you right now as you take in my words. Your boo thing may realize that it’s getting warm outside *coughs* cuffing season is over *coughs* sundress season in full effect. You are the only person who will be with you 24/7. You are the only one who knows ALL of your secrets and are able to pick yourself up in hard times. Yet, we don’t realize the value in being a friend to ourselves. Our inner dialogue often times consists of us talking down on ourselves in a way that we would never talk to our friends and family. I think it is time to begin to value the friendship within.
3. Time is a great healer. This is quite possibly the best piece of advice I’ve received and it was from my dad. I was 19 years old and 7 months pregnant and hadn’t talked to my child’s father in a week. We had a fuss over some ish he did and dude turned off his phone and ignored me. It was already not a good relationship, so I never felt good about it, so that on top of pregnancy hormones was just enough. I asked my dad “When will I feel better?” And he said, “Time.” “Time will help you feel better.” Little did I know that simple piece of advice would be a pivotal moment in my life. I carry that advice in the situations in which it feels as if my heart is bleeding. I always tell myself in a week I will start to feel better. Typically by 3 weeks I have noticed the actual changes of feeling better.
4. Always hold your head up. There have been so many times where I have felt so ashamed or guilty of something I had done and caused me to just want to hide forever or at least until the ish died down. I think 90 percent of the things were blown out of proportion by my mind, but the point is you should always hold your head high. Granted there will be times where you may royally mess up just don’t let it hang as a dark cloud over your head. I don’t care what you do, you always hold your head up and eff what others think. We all make mistakes. The key is to learn from our mistakes. That keeps you from moving forward.
I believe that applying these lessons will help you on your journey to being your best self. Remember the road is not a straight one, but if you keep pressing forth, you will arrive at your destination.