During the month of May, we are accepting guest posts from the Womeneur community and this has been republished with permission from Lakeshia Williams of Be Empowered Now.
If you don’t understand your worth and the value you bring to others, why should anyone else?
1. Tell that inner voice in your head to kick rocks
improve the way you talk to yourself. Stop the inner dialogue that you are not good enough or that you must repeatedly prove your worth to friends, family and your customers. That causes you to not be truly authentic and to over-function. If no one has told you let me tell that you are a fierce and fabulous business owner. Yes, you can run a successful business and live the life that you truly desire but only once you get out of your head and out of your own way. Stop over analyzing, over thinking, and take action. Trust your instincts.
2. Know your worth
If your worth is dependent upon pleasing others you will come up empty. Nothing you do for others will be enough to make you feel valued and appreciated in the way you desire. Knowing your worth has to come from within. Your worth is determined by the treatment you accept or expect for yourself, not by how much of yourself you give away. You simply cannot gain the skill of developing your own self-worth if you expect others to constantly soothe you, build you up and make you feel like you are a success. Measuring your worth by how important others make you feel makes your sense of self to dependent on other people.
To know your worth take charge of yourself and see how it feels to experience your own power.
3. Create your own success and happiness
Neither success or happiness are givens. They are creations. If happiness is not developed from within, you will naturally start looking for happiness from outside sources. This makes you needy. Your expectations, driven by insecurity, will drain others or push them away. Trust that you deserve success and happiness. Figure out how to self-soothe and make yourself happy. When you enjoy your own achievements and success your sense of worth will attract new opportunities and the recognition you deserve from your customers and your industry.
4. Be Proud of Yourself
Do things you are proud of. Take care to dress nice. Be nice, be calm, be loving and have boundaries. Work hard, achieve all you can, and be kind. Kindness will take you further in life than any other human characteristic. Walk tall. There is so much about you that is good, regardless of what you have been told. Choose to believe in who you are and be proud of that. Do not compare yourself to others. Like the snowflake, you are not repeatable. no one has access to your heart, your gift, your knowledge or the core of who you are
5. Slay Hard
Happiness is a by product of achieving and having a purpose. Hard work trumps genius, so let go of the idea you have to have a stellar IQ to be successful. The hard workers in life, are the people who succeed at the highest levels. There is nothing that can make you feel better about yourself then being committed in life, to your life, and to yourself through hard work. With hard work, success is a guarantee. Success naturally brings us self-love, self-respect, self-esteem, recognition and happiness.
6. Choose Healthy Connections
It only takes one toxic person to destroy your entire sense of self. Choose customers, partnerships and employees that treat you with dignity and respect. Refuse to participate in business partnerships where you have to constantly prove your worth to keep their interest. When you are trying to figure out who you want to target your services or products to make sure they are people that you would enjoy doing business with. They may have a similar lifestyle, hobbies, etc.
7. Let others be themselves and be okay with hearing no
If you are needy, insecure, entitled or demanding you become controlling. When you are controlling you compromise the freedoms of the important people in your life through fear, abandonment or engulfment. When you love yourself, you will not need to make demands because you will already have your needs taken care of. This makes you easier to work with and for. People will respond to you the most when you give them the freedom to be themselves. If you offer your services or products to someone and they don’t buy that’s okay its not for you to overthink that you need to decrease your prices or get upset with them there could be a million reasons why they couldn’t or chose not to do business with you at that moment. Don’t haggle or sell your worth to get a customer
8. Be happy for others
People who know their worth seldom feel jealousy or envy because they are satisfied in their own lives, careers and relationships. They are satisfied with who they are as people. Be happy for other people and their happiness. This shift will fundamentally change your life and only serve to bring happiness your way.
Trust there is enough love, money, happiness and success for everyone. When you see there is no such thing as lack, other people’s success or happiness will no longer be a threat to you and your view of yourself. Your self-worth is YOUR business.