When you think of the word hope it is usually rooted in an optimistic state of mind, right? There is some expectation of a positive outcome. My father once said to me “As long as there is breath in me, there is hope”. So profound and full of positive energy, yet also lacked depth because of the lack of action. I found myself believing and repeating those same words from time to time. Hope for me is a good thing, I do believe in it, however there has been matters in my life when I pondered and struggled with the idea of letting go of hope.
But how do you let go of hope? Why would you even want to?
I recently had an interesting conversation where a totally different perspective on hope was presented to me. In those moments when I contemplated letting go of hope, I now understood why. While hope is again typically a positive idea. Hope can keep you in the future if you allow it to. The future does not exist, of course in our minds it does. It can be a way of hoping things get better without actually doing the work. Think about all the instances when you hear someone hoping for something. “I hope things get better” “I hope I get that new car” “I hope I find the perfect mate” “I hope for better days” etc. That kind of hope is usually coming from a place of lack disguised as optimism. Example being the dad who hopes to one day have a beautiful relationship with his son and who believes that as long as there is breath in him there is hope, but also the same person who doesn’t do the work. In this case hope has become crippling. You can’t become reliant on hope and think that magically things will happen.
Maybe hope is a good idea to let go of or rather re-evaluate when you become obsessed with your projected future results. When it becomes a hindrance instead of a means of encouragement, preventing you from being in the now and cherishing life right now. When things are going good, you rarely hear people hoping for anything. Maybe you might hear someone say “this is great, I hope this never ends”. In hoping that “this never ends” you’ve left the moment. As a person who’s consciously trying to stay in the moment, it’s something to give deference to. So when I was contemplating letting go of hope it was because I was stuck in the future, blinding myself and robbing myself the experience of right now.
Keep these things in mind, should you ever find yourself in a precarious situation wondering if you should let go of hope or not.
- Keep hope alive, just remember to not become so consumed in it that you forget to live and explore the endless possibilities of right now
- Hope should be based in reality
- Hope that will not disappoint has to be grounded in something more than wishing
- Remember that hope is a virtue, therefore a very good thing!