There was a point in time when I worried over just about everything. I worried and wondered if and when a romantic relationship I was involved in would ever manifest into the vision I had created for myself. You know the grand vision that we all have for our personal love lives or any relationship we involve ourselves in. What it should look like, how it should make you feel, how it should read on paper, how it should flow, how it should be, the list goes on. Overly consumed by this imaginary blueprint, the blueprint of my love life, I would find myself so overwhelemed that anytime something went perceivably wrong or not in my favor, it felt as though life was being extracted out of me. I would be so mad and upset, feeling as though I was being cheated. Many times I felt hopeless and would fight tooth and nail for control; control over things I had absolutely no control over.
Think of being outside trying to change the course of the wind. Imagine the exorbitant amount of energy that is wasted fighting something that was never meant to be fought. That was me, time and time again. Fighting against the things that life presented me with instead of flowing with them.
At some point, I began to realized that my energy is very relevant to the health of my overall well-being; I abused it. I worried, I wondered, I was anxious all the time. Beyond the point of exhaustion there’s numbness. Being numb is never an ideal way to live, at least not for me and it shouldn’t be for any of us. We are all flawed human beings, we are bound to have our moments, we are certainly going to struggle. But if we are going to struggle, why not make it more of a graceful struggle. The more you go with the flow of life, the less you struggle. It doesn’t matter if it is a personal relationship you are trying to navigate your way through, a business relationship or any relationship for that matter; play your part and do what you can. The rest is out of your control.
Worry arises because you realize that you cannot predict what is going to happen tomorrow and know that you cannot have full control over how events turn out. You are uncomfortable with not having absolute certainty.
- Work it off– Although exercise may not actually solve the issues that are causing you to feel anxious, engaging yourself in activity takes your mind off things. You become clearer after taking a break.
- Meditate– Meditation helps your mind with needed breaks from all that clutter. The practice also helps you with greater focus. You find yourself experiencing increased clarity and less likely to worry over unnecessary things.
- Change your perspective– Energy flows where you focus your attention. Understand that you can choose to focus on positive rather than negative thoughts. In fact, as you become more positive, you’ll be better able to create more positive outcomes.
This way of thinking allows space for me to freely move about this blueprint of mine, and allow things to happen naturally. After putting enough practice in repeatedly I can definitely notice the shift in my energy, in my thoughts, in my peace.