As long as a part of yourself is invested in your emotional pain, you will unconsciously resist or sabotage every attempt that you make to heal that pain
Giving space to others and to ourselves is vital. We need space in order to see, in order to hear. Life can’t be all about constantly being in the mix, or constantly fulfilling a role. Tune out the noise, and give yourself some space. Love cannot flourish without it. You need it, I need it. everyone does. Remind yourself often that you and only you are responsible for your inner space, protect it.
Words of the wise: “The past cannot prevail against the power of now.” Often times in our minds we believe that he or she, this and that is the cause of our sadness or our unhappiness. Though things and people outside of ourselves certainly contributes, we often times forget to take responsibility and attribute these states of being to our own toxic thoughts. Our own learned behaviors of self-doubt and fear. We conjure up the idea that if we eliminate the source, we can ultimately eliminate the suffering. The truth is that the root of the source always comes back around to you.
Giving yourself space calls for being alone.
- Get Comfortable Start being comfortable with being alone. Step away from social media, turn off the television, pass on Thursday evening happy hour, why? Because it’ll all be there when you’re done giving yourself that necessary space to breath.
- Be intentional Set aside purposeful, soul searching time to reflect. Create an opportunity to have a heart to heart conversation with yourself. Be honest, and use the time to get to know you.
- Be Shameless I’m an advocate for being selfless, however sometimes we need to be a bit selfish. Don’t feel guilty for stepping away from everything and everyone for a moment to reconnect with yourself. Neither guilt nor ego should prod us into wearing ourselves thin.
- Love Yourself First Time and time again we fail to do that. Muster up all your will power to eliminate toxic thought processes and behaviors, the ones that leads you to believe something is wrong with you. Daily, give yourself some space, the space we as the ever evolving beings that we are to grow, and self-improve.
I’m not saying shut down, shut the world out and live in a bubble that no one can get to, but at the end of the day we all need to maintain our own spirits in order to be of service to others.