Be your own woman.
Have you ever tried to absorb the true testimony here?
Be your own version of you.
As I scroll through social media or lurk through my favorite blogger’s posts, it has become normal to encounter some version of the phrase aimed at inspiring women to embrace their inner self and own their womanhood. So I asked myself; what does being my own woman mean to me.
It wasn’t long before I was staring at a blank page with just my name on it, trying to figure out what type of woman I thought I should be. And therein lies the problem. There was no blueprint to highlight how to be the perfect version of myself. There was no seminar I could attend or person I can reach out to who can inform me best on how to be a better me. Only I could do that. Only I can think of my desires, my self worth and my strength. Only I can determine what is best for me.
And so I wrote a list of my flaws and mentally set them on fire. I examined my life and all that I have been through: failure, unemployment, eviction, unhappiness and put those on a pedestal. Then I thought about the woman who overcame them. I thought long and hard about the woman who made it to the other side of those hardships and I felt pride. Pride that this woman was still alive and kicking. Pride that this woman didn’t falter under the weight of living and she pushed to strive. Pride that I am that woman.
I didn’t give up on life when it was easier to. So many times it’s hard to go through a day without negativity scratching to get in. And so many times we women allow that negativity to infiltrate our train of thoughts. Well maybe I was reaching too far. Or maybe I shouldn’t send in this resume since I’m so underqualified. Ugh today, I just can’t do it.
This is where faith walks in. Faith in yourself, faith in your spiritual strength and faith in your journey. Being your own woman is learning the woman in you who continues to grow. It’s sidestepping everything society has to say, and creating a tunnel vision to your dreams. Every woman has a dream. Doesn’t matter if it’s mastering the perfect recipe or becoming CEO of a thriving business. It’s all been embedded in our souls that we were meant to do more and be more. Being your own woman is embracing that. Accepting that your journey is your own. As similar as you may seem to your best friend of fifteen years, your vision can be as different as night and day. And that’s O.K.
Every woman’s journey is different. Every woman’s faith is different. But every woman is just as powerful, just as strong and just as driven. The beauty in being a woman is the ability to be our own beautiful version of ourselves. We can be the construction worker who glams up at night or the career woman yearning to backpacking across the world. It’s all a part of our unique essence.
Even though I am far from understanding where my journey may take me, I am a woman who embraces it. I laugh, cry and occasionally scream during the ride but its mine. I know my worth and believe in myself. I nourish my accomplishments and highlight my failures because they are what define me. I am the best version of me because I can accept who I am becoming. Because I am not afraid to live, love and be beautifully raw with myself. I am my own woman because I have grown to love me. And I sure do love me some me!
So I challenge you to be your own kind of woman. Face your fears and love your journey. Ask your soul its desires, and listen with an open heart.
It’s the fire in my eyes,
And the flash of my teeth,
The swing in my waist,
And the joy in my feet.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally. – Maya Angelou
What are some ways you remind yourself to be your own woman? How have you learned to love yourself even more than you did yesterday?[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row]