If you don’t go after what you want, you’ll never have it. If you don’t ask, the answer is always no. If you don’t step forward, you’re always in the same place. – Nora Roberts
Many of us have dreams that are so hidden in fear that we think that they are either too big to come to fruition, or someone else ends up using our ideas. There is also the misconception that if we seek help to bring our dreams to light then we show signs of weakness or we are incapable of making it work.
How will you move toward your dreams and goals if you remain quiet and don’t seek advice? What is more important – your pride or achieving your definition of success?
Part of accomplishing your goals is to be vocal, seek out mentors, and form strategic partnerships that can contribute to your success. Successful people will tell you that their network of associates, partnerships and mentors are the main tools that propelled them forward.
To get the answer and the help you need, you have to be clear and specific of what it is that you desire. Take the time to internally formalize what your needs are. If you want a specific career, be clear on the role you want and the type of organization that you would like to work in.
You also have to do your research. Why would someone assist you if you don’t have some knowledge about the industry you aspire to work in? To quote the fictional character Jerry Maguire, “Help me, help you.” You have to be able to show a perspective mentor that you are worth their time.
Ask With Expectation
There is a difference between entitlement and expectation. You don’t want to approach someone with the attitude that they are supposed to provide you with guidance or assistance. However, you should exude confidence and believe that they will provide you with what you need, especially if you are clear about the direction on where you want to take your career. Most people are not going to be willing to help you if are unsure of yourself. So, it is important to be strategic when you ask for help and from who you ask for help.
The Right Opportunity
Part of being successful is to be able to view common occasions as mini opportunities. You can grow your network at brunch, volunteer groups, even at a parent teacher conference. The key is that you have to be able to make a connection with people and be open to where the conversation may lead. It is important to note that you should make an effort to make connections with people who are inline with the goals you want to achieve.
In the end, there is always more than one way to get what you want, but you have to know what your end is. Knowing how success is defined for you, will allow you to be open to know what opportunities you should jump on and who you should be vocal to.
If all else fails, remember, “A closed mouth don’t get fed.”[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row]