Birds of a Feather: Are Your Friends Eagles or Chickens?

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You’ve heard the saying, “Show me your company and I’ll tell you who you are,” right? Well, it probably sounds a little unfair, because we should solely be based on our own character and actions. No one wants to be judged, but this is the real world and most people pass judgment by who you are associated with.

In business, you don’t want to sully your reputation by being associated with shady characters, so why would you want that for your personal life? And, honestly, if you’re keeping company with people of questionable morals are you really so different?

So, how do you create a pristine flock of associates for your inner circle? Choose your company wisely. You’re not looking for identical twins, but keep an eye out for people who reflect the values that matters to you most.

My inner circle includes people with strong work ethic and sense of charity, those who value honesty and integrity, tact and discretion, creativity and intellect, financial independence and personal growth. Those closest to me are champions and warriors, givers and listeners, winners and risk takers, they carry themselves as ladies and gentlemen.

Take a look at who is in your personal circle and then ask yourself if you’re proud to call them your friends. Do you respect and admire them? Do they inspire you? Are they apart of who you are becoming or keeping you back because of who you once were? Are you birds of a feather, or do they cluck while you soar? Your inner circle should differ from you in ways that are interesting and promote personal growth, not create drama and negative energy. Love yourself enough to align with those who elevate you to the greatest heights while you do the same.

Remember, sometimes good friends become old friends and new friends become best friends.

Action items:

1. Make a list of the values that matter most to you and the traits that you don’t want attributed to you.
2. Make lists of the five people you spend the most time with in person, on the phone and online. Yes, online presence matters. You aren’t a robot.
3. Honestly and accurately assess who fits and who doesn’t.
4. Make the necessary changes in your life for a better life.

Above all, remember that you, like your friends, are a work in progress. Be the person who you would want to be associated with because ultimately, you will be held accountable for your own actions and behavior, good and bad.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row]